Key Steps To Becoming an Advanced Negotiator

The study of power and its effect is important in the understanding of negotiation and relationships (or common ground) flowing from any negotiation. Every interaction and every social relationship, in side and outside organizations, involves an exercise of power.

INTERPERSONAL POWER:

French and Raven suggested five interpersonal bases of power that are important to negotiators.

  1. Legitimate power
  2. Reward power
  3. Coercive power
  4. Expert power
  5. Referent power

We will examine only Expert Power and Referent Power in this article, but should you wish to learn more about Legitimate Power read the article entitled “The Use of Power in Negotiations” on http://www.ezine.com. To learn about Coercive Power and Reward Power read the article entitled “Release your Power in Negotiations” on ezine.com

EXPERT POWER

A person who possesses expertise that is highly valued has expert power. Experts have power even when their rank is low. An individual may possess expertise on technical, administrative, or personal matters. The more difficult it is to replace the expert; the greater is the degree of expert power that he or she possesses. Expert power is sometimes referred to as information power and is often a personal characteristic. For example:

A secretary who has a relatively low-level organisational position may have high expert power because he or she knows the details of operating the business – where everything is or how to handle difficult situations.

According to Lewicki et al. (1985:249), men and nations will act rationally when all other possibilities have been exhausted. Within the context of negotiation, expert power is the most common form of power in use. Expert power refers to the persuasive, influential nature of the information itself. It refers to the accumulation and presentation of information that will change the other’s point of view on an issue.

Lewicki et al. are of the opinion that expert power is a special form of information power. Information power can be used by anyone who has studied and prepared his position for negotiation. Expert power, according to this author, is accorded to those who are seen as having mastered and organized a great wealth of information.

Lewicki et al. are of the opinion that there are methods by which a negotiator can establish him or herself as an expert in the eyes of the other party:

  • By citing facts and figures.
  • By ‘name dropping’.
  • By citing examples of detailed experiences gained in well-known institutions.
  • By being known through the press or through other people, or through writing articles in well-known journals (by being visible).

Presentation of information:

Within the context of negotiation, information power is at the heart of expert power. Even in the simplest negotiation, the way that information is presented could make a large impact on the outcome. In the light of this it can be seen that visual aids like charts, graphs and good statistics have a substantial impact on a negotiation. Market research on other prices in the area, on consumer’s opinions and on financial position and the interest of suppliers is important information to gather when preparing oneself. Care should be taken that this information is trustworthy, since if it is proved to be untrue this could damage the trust built through negotiation in a serious way.

Information power is often used in a distributive way so that information is manipulated to control the options open to the other party. For example, the other’s choice of behaviour is influenced by sending him positive information about the option we want him to choose, or by concealing information about an option we don’t want him to choose.

In some cases experts are brought into negotiations since people are less likely to argue with a perceived expert in the area of his expertise. To really take on the challenge, the non-expert would probably have to consult with another expert, which is costly, time consuming and somewhat risky. The lack of confidence of the non-expert is often quite visible in his body language, posture and manner speaking.

Countering good information:

Countering information power can be a real problem. When information or an expert is brought in to counter the other side’s information, it can lead to an escalation in conflict with either a negative result of no resolution of the conflict and hence agreement; or a positive result which leads to a search for other alternatives which could be beneficial to the negotiation process. So the best approach would be to:

  • Explore all the information at hand
  • See an expert for what he is. All experts have abilities in a certain field, but seldom over the whole field covered by the negotiation.
  • Either specify or generalize depending on the posturing of the opposition. For example, if the opponent comes with very specific information, an effective counter would be to return with very general information.

REFERENT POWER

It is common to identify with and be influenced by a person because of his personality or behavioural style. The charisma of that person forms the basis of referent power. A person with charisma is admired because of his or her personality. The strength of a person’s charisma is an indication of his or her referent power. Charisma is a term used to describe the magnetic personalities of some politicians, entertainers and sports figures. Some managers are also regarded by their subordinates as extremely charismatic.

Referent power is sometimes referred to as personal power. Referent (or personal) power is based on the target’s attraction to the power holder – liking, perceived similarity, admiration, desire to be close to or friendly with the power holder. This attraction may be based on physical attractiveness, dress, mannerisms, lifestyle or position, but can also include friendliness, congeniality, honesty, integrity and so on.

Truly charismatic people – those who have a unique blend of physical characteristics, speech, mannerisms and self-confidence- are able to influence very large groups of people by their actions. Referent power is based on the need of an individual to identify with people of influence or attractiveness. The more the target admires or identifies with an individual, the more referent influence the power holder has and the more control he can exert because of this identification. This form of power is often regarded as one of the strongest in negotiation.

In international negotiations governments realise the importance of sending professional negotiators or individuals with special qualities of referent power to negotiate on their behalf. If personal power is abused by any side it can lead to tremendous distrust between the parties involved. Personal power is seldom associated with destructive tactics of any form, because individuals with an abundance o personal power will often try to find those agreements that could befit both sides as not to leave any victims in their wake and thus lose their source of attractiveness.

The personal integrity of an individual in the opponent’s team could be a very strong from of common ground in negotiations. Many negotiators fall back on the integrity of the parties and the relationships built up between individuals as the strongest bond that exists between negotiating parties. The very existence of this bond will encourage them to find solutions for any conflict that may occur.

Tips And Ideas For Creating A Personalised Present

People often associate gift giving with time, stress, and money, but this does not necessarily have to be the case. By using a little creativity and considering the needs, desires, and preferences of the recipient, finding the perfect personalised present can be simple.

The first thing to consider are the hobbies, interests, and activities of the person receiving the gift. What their favorite color is, what they like to do in their spare time, and what kinds of activities they participate in can all lead to gift ideas that, otherwise, might not be considered. The old adage “It’s not the gift that counts, it’s the thought” is only partially true. If the recipient likes to knit, but receives a golf club as a gift, although appreciated it will probably never be used which makes it less memorable.

Just by knowing what type of activity the participant likes best can lead to many options. This is because most pastimes require many accessories. Those who actively participate in favorite forms of entertainment regularly probably already have the needed items associated with that activity. However, frequently they fail to purchase the “luxury” items that can make it that much more fun. This can lead to great gift-giving ideas.

Most activities have luxury items and some of the best accessories can even be homemade. For instance, if you knit and are giving a gift to a golfer, knitting club covers with golf balls sewn onto the front that have funny faces can not only liven up a game, they can also become the talk of the course.

Although you may know of the interests of your friends and family, you may not be familiar enough with the activities to know what accessories would be most appropriate. By searching the Internet, everything you’ve ever wanted to know about any pastime can be easily found. In many cases shopping sites specialize in accessories and, once known, many can even be made by hand making the gift all that much more special.

For baby showers any gift can be personalized. Embroidering the baby’s name or initials onto quilts, blankets, shirts, or jackets can add an extra special touch. The same can be said for wedding gifts. Adding the wedding date and names of the young couple often serves as a trophy in the new home as well as serving as a great reminder of how special their big day was.

A personalised present is a great way to ensure recipients know how much you really care about them. By understanding the interests and preferences of those you are giving a gift to it is much easier, and much less stressful, to find the perfect gift. Better yet, for those who have skills in sewing, carpentry, or any other artistic areas, the joy of giving something homemade that didn’t break the bank often makes the effort well worthwhile.

Christmas Presents For Your Boyfriend – What Does He Want?

I have some exciting news for you: after reading this article you will know how to select a great present for your boyfriend this Christmas. Interested?

Picture this, it’s the end of August, and some women (young and old) are already thinking about Christmas and all the shopping woes that come with it. You will need to buy presents for your families, your friends, your co-workers (yes, and your boss), and even the hairdresser.

… Oops, what about the boyfriend? Have you decided what you will get him in 2013?

As I’m sure you know, it’s never too early to start shopping… and stressing. Let me provide you with some tips that I think will help. And the best part, these tips come from someone who knows… yes, a guy. Here are my ideas to narrow down your search so you can actually create a list of things you think your boyfriend will want.

Imagine if you even came up with one idea under each of the following:

Hobbies

What have you seen your guy do to relax? What does he talk about (doesn’t include work or even you) that gets him all excited? He’s giving you tips into that male brain of his and very likely giving you hints about those things he likes to do and therefore would like to get.

Guys like to relax and have fun (I know, it’s childish sometimes) but why not help him enjoy his down time? The ideas are many: sports accessories, video games.

Toys

Sometimes jokingly used, it’s still worth noting that anything goofy or unusual is still a safe bet. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “small things amuse small minds”? Well, it’s true, and sometimes we all need those things just to relax and take our minds off this complex world we live in.

What I really like about the variety of “toys” out there is that these make great stocking stuffers and therefore easy to hide from prying eyes. They’re also great if you’ve only been dating for a short time and are looking for something that says “fun but not overly committed but would like to be”.

Work or School

Depending on what your guy does for work, or even if he’s in school, there are tons of options available to you to find something that makes these more manageable for your boyfriend. Trust me, guys think in terms of efficiencies and if you’ve helped him with this then it will be appreciated (meaning more time for you, too).

Electronics

Here’s an easy one that gives you a gazillion options; from laptops to game players to phones and even… ready, I’m going to use two words in the same sentence about guys… buy your boyfriend accessories!

That’s right, there are so many gadgets and things as well as covers and cables that your choices here are almost endless. This is extremely beneficial to you if you’ve bought him the “big-ticket item” previously and now you want to jazz it up or even make it better.

Sports

I wanted to list this one separately even though it’s touched on above. What else do guys talk about, cheer about, and even place wagers on? Sports, of course! If they have a favorite local team you could look at purchasing a one-game or a seasons-pass for him. Whether you include one for you or one of his buddies is up to you.

If there is not a local team then perhaps you can buy him a pay-per-view event and either you two can snuggle up close to watch it or he could invite his buddies over (I recommend the latter). It should be easy finding out which he prefers, just listen the next time you’re out with him and his friends.

Because you’ve heard this directly from the horse’s mouth, a guy, you know that these suggestions are legitimate. If you’re still not sure, ask other male acquaintances or male family members; they will agree with me.

By following these time-proven suggestions you will narrow down your search for that perfect Christmas present for your boyfriend this year. And what a relief going into the holiday season to be ahead of your girlfriends-with-boyfriends. Happy shopping!